Matchmaker Versus Social Escort Agency – Are They The Same?

To some lay people in Singapore, it can feel that a matchmaker service and SG escort service are highly similar.

To add on to this confusion, rent-a-friend services and sugar dating websites popped up in recent years, and they all make these just even more confusing to the layman.

So are they the same or different?

There is a world of difference, and they are suitable for completely different purposes. Let us talk about that.

One is for a long term relationship, one is for a short term no strings attached one

First of all, a matchmaking dating agency in Singapore is one which attempts to match up clients of both genders to each other. While it may not always end in marriage, the purpose is to ideally match two people up who may then be able to start a long term relationship together. Both the guys and the girls are the clients and the agency simply serves as a middle man who qualifies the potential dates. A long term relationship is the end goal.

You may want to note that matchmakers simply find you whom you want, or someone as close to that as humanly possible. They are unable to make the girl you want your bride – or that will be known as mail order bride, not matchmaking, which is illegal in SG! So please do not ask matchmakers in Singapore weird questions related to mail order brides or arranged marriages.

However, a social escort agency simply provides (usually) a girl for companionship to a male client. The girls are working with the agency, and the guys are the clients. It is more of provision of a service. After the number of hours you have engaged the respective escort girl for, she will simply go off. She has no intention of keeping in contact with you, as she joined an escort agency for privacy reasons. This is purely for a short term, no strings attached relationship. Of course, for the best experience, always make sure to find Singaporean escorts who specialize in the girlfriend experience, GFE.

You may also want to note the following. Likewise, for female escort services, agencies can only legally arrange for companionship. Agencies are unable to legally arrange or facilitate for sexual services, or that will be known as pimping which is illegal in Singapore! So do not break local laws and try to solicit prostitution from escort agencies!

One is more ‘taboo’ than the other

While matchmaking can still make some people feel embarrassed in Singapore, it is relatively less taboo. Some people may feel embarrassed if they need to engage the services of a matchmaker to find their partner. However, matchmaking and even online dating applications are already becoming more of a norm in Singapore, where every professional is too busy working to date normally.

On the other hand, SG escort services can still be seen as very taboo in Singapore. While it can be perfectly legal to engage such social escorts in Singapore, conservative Asian cultures in Singapore can still make it seem very taboo.

What I Learnt From One Of Singapore’s Matchmaking Agencies

Are love and trust the only things required for a long term relationship?

Although love and trust is still important and fundamental for a long term relationship, it is undeniable that many local Singaporeans still look at a person’s earning capabilities before marrying.

So what does Rogers look at when it comes to requirements for male clients for his matchmaking dating agency?

Match making agency boss Rogers Tan can confirm on it – he has been operating a Singapore match making agency for around 20 years. During its founding around 1999, Rogers Tan received a large proportion of clients who belonged to the lower income group in Singapore. However, he quickly found it nearly impossible to arrange successful matches at all for these clients.

“Most of them were in their 30s, and some even 40s. When a local girl looks at a man, she definitely wants someone who’s earning more – especially because of their age.”

“Can we blame the girls? Not really. It is the unfortunate truth that Singapore is really expensive to live in no matter how we put it,” Rogers added.

Rogers decided after 3 to 4 years in the business that he needed to refocus on bringing in more high end guy clients to successfully grow his business.

Here is a similar story of a matchmaking agency which is also based in Singapore.

With this refocus and pivot of his business, Rogers was able to achieve more successful matches and happy ever afters for his clients.

Some of his new criteria for men were:

  • Have Diploma education at least
  • Earn at least $4,000 a month

While these requirements may feel materialistic, it is realistic to him.

While many men and even women chastise him for such requirements, when the question was flipped, the local women who provided such feedback were not able to accept these men anyway.

How about the women?

Rogers’ criteria is different when it comes to female clients. When it comes to the women, it is the age, a slim physique and decent looks that matters more.

However, one thing which is common is that the men also prefer a woman who has at least some form of education – at least O levels or a Diploma is also the requirement.

However, generally speaking according to Rogers, men and women look to different criteria when it comes to selecting a partner – both short and long term.